What Do You Really Want..?

Hello Reader,

As I sit in my sun room and write to you, I feel cold for the first time in many months. The season's are certainly on the change here in the UK and it's a beautiful reminder that nature never stops changing, and nor do we. Or at least the human aspect.

Change is an inevitable part of life; one thing we can be certain of, in uncertainty, is that change will happen.

The invitation for all of us is to know change and not resist it. Trying to hold on to something that once was, is one of the fastest routes to suffering. It reminds me of the saying "all good things must come to an end." Because however hard we might try to 'hold onto' something, it is impossible.

And that's great news if you are currently experiencing something you deem 'undesirable'. Because it simply cannot remain that way.

When I work 1:1 with people one of the first things I ask is what they really want (as an aside, it's also something I regularly ask myself and the members of the Intuition Experiment Community).

The answers are as varied as the humans that express them.

But I never stop at the first answer that arises. Why? Because that is rarely the thing the person actually wants. And it likely won't be the thing you actually want either.

Let me explain...

If I ask you want you want and you say 'breakfast' then there is unlikely to be anything more to it. You're hungry so you want breakfast. It's a simple desire that can be met by eating and then the desire disappears.

Many other 'wants' are not so straight forward, or 'clean' (and I explain this fully in my book, Intuition Experiment).

Perhaps you want more money, or a better relationship, or to stop overthinking, or to be calm more of the time, or to be physically well? If I were to ask you why you wanted that, or what that thing would give you that you don't already have, you might uncover a deeper desire. Perhaps you carry on that questioning, being curious about what the thing would give you...

At some point, I can guarantee that almost every human will end up with one of the following:

Peace

Happiness

Freedom

Contentment

Love

It is rarely the thing we are chasing that is what we really want, however much it looks that way.

If we are willing to investigate, it is usually peace, happiness, freedom, contentment and/or love that we want and we mistakenly believe that that will come from the thing we are chasing.

I'm sure you'll have an example of this.

It might look like "when I have X (insert the thing you think you want), then I'll be OK" (or happy or at peace or free or loved).

Then, you get "X," and for a while you find happiness, freedom, contentment, peace and/or love. Only to be thrown back into needing something else when the effect of "X" wears off.

So, I hear you cry, if we want peace, happiness, freedom, contentment and/or love, how do we get that?

The wonderful news is that you don't have to.

It's already right here. In plain view. Right under your nose, if you care to stop for long enough and look.

Without thought, what is here?

Now, I'm not suggesting we attempt to live without thoughts; that would be impossible because we're human and we think.

But for a moment, can you see that without thoughts telling you about the lack of money, poor relationship, need for happiness or anything else, you are peace, contentment, happiness, love and freedom?

If you were to pay less attention to thoughts how would that impact you? What would you experience more of the time?

This is ultimately what I help people to see more clearly for themselves; whether through my books; The Truth Beyond Thought or Intuition Experiment, membership, 1:1 sessions or in person events (see below for those coming up).

And the result is a life of more ease.

After a recent exploratory call with someone this is the message they sent afterwards:

"Something else came up after the call but I can’t find the words to explain.
I felt so calm and my mind quietened down so much after talking to you. I felt like I was suffering from some kind of shock. It was a joy and pleasure talking to you."

If you'd like the experience what lies beneath thought, then I have 3 spaces left on the upcoming silent retreat that Amy Rogers and I are running in the Devon countryside.

It's your chance to be completely looked after, to step away from every day life, relinquish gadgets and screens that keep you occupied and searching for something, and to be completely present, exactly as you are.

If you have any questions or you'd like to book once you've taken a look at the Eventbrite page, please reply to this email because if you pay via bank transfer the price will be £250. I set up the Eventbrite page with the desire to reach a wider audience. I can also provide you with all accommodation options.

Upcoming Events

Monthly In Person Meetup

We meet on the last Monday of every month to explore living from the 'heart' rather than the 'head', what's true and other such topics.

The next meeting is on 28th September, 12pm for a 12.30pm start until 2pm. Nancy Potter House, Topsham, Devon, Exe-ercise Meeting Room, upstairs. £10 per session.

Book and pay using this link.

Ways To Work With Me

Read my books

I've written two books, both of which invite you to experiment and explore living life differently. The first, The Truth Beyond Thought; Experiments To Rediscover Peace & Freedom, helps guide you to first seeing what you're not, to remembering what you are. The second, Intuition Experiment, is a combination of book and journal, and invites you into a month-long experiment to living life from intuition rather than conditioned habitual thinking. Both are available to download on my website as PDF's or on Amazon as e-books or physical books.

The Intuition Experiment Community

This is my supportive monthly membership that you can join and leave at any time, to explore living more from intuition (or 'true self') than from conditioned, habitual thoughts. It's where I'm most active in supporting individuals to live a free-er life outside of my 1:1 work. If you find yourself wanting to live life differently, then join this lovely small community to transition to a new paradigm. One where more ease and flow is available, more of the time. Full details here.

A recent testimonial from a member:

A small group of us signed up to be part of Vicki’s Intuition Experiment for 4 weeks in December 2025.

She had written a book / journal to support this and a sentence in this really resonated with me:

‘What you listen to and pay attention to, dictates your quality of life and how you experience it’

I wanted to know more!

Our group has continued, and we are led by Vicki who is empathetic, intuitive and supports and encourages us to find space and peace in this busy world. I can’t find the words to express how much this has impacted on my ability to be less anxious and live in the moment.

Do I still get down, anxious and question myself? Of course, but this group has empowered me with a knowing, and when I am down and struggling I know this will pass and that I need to stop paying attention to the negative chatter that is going on in my head.

The group of people are so lovely too; supportive, wise and so non-judgemental - I feel I have a new group of friends who are there for me.

Wendy Taylor

1:1 Coaching/Mentoring

I have space for a couple of people in my 1:1 work. If you'd like more personalised support to live a life of freedom then book a free exploratory call to see if we might be a good fit to work together. The call itself may be enough to move you forward...

Until next time, happy experimenting.

Much love,

Vicki

Vicki Montague

Founder Free From Fairy | Free From Limits